Face It. Recognizing and Conquering The Hidden Fear That Drives All Conflict At Work

Before we move on, lets collect some key points from this chapter:

• There are the facts of the world (e.g., you are reading this sentence ), and there are the opinions of these facts (e.g., you accept or reject the point of the sentence).

• The reactions you have to the world that you would like to get better control of all come from your opinions or judgments .

• So, managing your judgments of the world will help you to manage your troublesome reactions.

• If you could just stay focused on the factsthe object-level youd be okay. But its hard to do. It means getting control of your tendency to judge.

• Your ego judges for a living, always watching to see whether it likes what its seeing.

• Your ego needs to ˜˜lighten upyou take yourself too seriously!

• You operate as though all your opinions actually come from the world of facts. The realization that they dont come from the world of facts may help you gain mastery over your troublesome reactions.