Face It. Recognizing and Conquering The Hidden Fear That Drives All Conflict At Work

Those who avoid their angst by looking awaycontrollers, attention-seekers , and fakes are also subscribing to the existence of ghosts. All constructs of meta-thoughts are useful entities because they give us tools to survive. But when we become driven by them, lost in them, we let them take us too far.

• Controllers make their judgments and then derive fuel from them to get control. They get lost in their effort to get their own way, motivated by a self-produced angst.

• Attention-seekers meta-level thoughts create out of the blue a sense of emptiness, judge that this emptiness is just not okay, and look away while they try to fill it with other peoples sense of who they are.

• Fakes , people who feel a dissonance between what they know about themselves and how they behave, judge themselves very unfavorably while they continue to sustain the falsehood.